And why is it so hard to just say “me: what I am, what I do – what I have”?
Many times, when we find ourselves in fear (of being lonely, of losing our jobs, of not having enough money, of what other people will think, etc), the root cause of the fear is not what it may initially seem to be.
We attract opportunities into our lives to prove things to ourselves. And it works both ways. When we are knowing our worth, in our power, believing in ourselves, trusting our abilities – then anything that happens next is a chance to show ourselves (again) how worthy, powerful, capable, and trustworthy we are – because we can handle it.
When we believe (consciously or unconsciously) ourselves to be unworthy of love, weak, incapable, untrustworthy – anything that happens next usually winds up being a confirmation that our deep fear was correct: We Are Not Good Enough.
But what does “good enough” even look like? Who determined it was something other than what you – inherently, spectacularly, brilliantly – are? Who decided you need to be perfect in order to be “good enough”? What if whoever or whatever formed your perception of “good enough” wasn’t ever even talking about you – they were just projecting their own insecurities onto you?
The AMAZING news is: the cycle can stop at any moment you choose. And it will continue to be a moment by moment choice until it is your new pattern. Overnight? Maybe not. But the more you bring a compassionate awareness to your thoughts, and choose – moment by moment – to remember you are enough, you do enough, and you have enough – the easier it will become.
HomeLove: What does “good enough” look like in your mind? What areas of your life (think of at least 3 – AT LEAST!) do you feel like you are good enough already? What areas of your life do you feel like you are not good enough? Try to be as compassionate with yourself as you would if you were speaking to a cherished love one.